This one is dedicated to all the parents out there, who have at some point in their lives, been transfixed (at least initially, before they learn to ignore) by the tantrums thrown by their kids. And because I am one of them and lived through it to tell the tale, here goes.
If your kid is an infant or a toddler, then you know that he’s probably emitting those unceasingly loud ear-shattering screams because he’s tired, hungry or uncomfortable with something. But if he’s passed this age group and is still fond of throwing tantrums, here’s how you can try to cope with it:
· Is your child getting enough attention? At times, when a new baby comes into the family, the older one might feel ignored and hence the outburst. Try taking some extra interest into small everyday activities of your kid, a bit more than usual and pass a cheerful comment or two as you go about your work.
· Does your child wish to have a sense of independence? Sometimes kids want to get in-charge of something to feel more important and grown-up. Even a simple question such as: ‘Do you want to have chocolate milk or strawberry milk for dinner?’ may work (it does for me). This way they feel they have some authority and some say in matters, howsoever small it may be.
· Most importantly, you as a parent need to keep your cool. It won’t help in any way at all if you start venting your own frustration and add to the din – this would amount to a temper tantrum on your part as well. Take a deep breath; make a strong cup of coffee (this always helps, trust me!) and then sit down to set matters straight.
P.S. This post found its way here thanks to Sarah, who just got through a bout of bellowing over a new pink fairy gown she wanted me to buy for her to wear at her best friend’s birthday party next week. The request was politely (but firmly) put down and placated with some chocolate chip cookies (for the time being). Phew!
If your kid is an infant or a toddler, then you know that he’s probably emitting those unceasingly loud ear-shattering screams because he’s tired, hungry or uncomfortable with something. But if he’s passed this age group and is still fond of throwing tantrums, here’s how you can try to cope with it:
· Is your child getting enough attention? At times, when a new baby comes into the family, the older one might feel ignored and hence the outburst. Try taking some extra interest into small everyday activities of your kid, a bit more than usual and pass a cheerful comment or two as you go about your work.
· Does your child wish to have a sense of independence? Sometimes kids want to get in-charge of something to feel more important and grown-up. Even a simple question such as: ‘Do you want to have chocolate milk or strawberry milk for dinner?’ may work (it does for me). This way they feel they have some authority and some say in matters, howsoever small it may be.
· Most importantly, you as a parent need to keep your cool. It won’t help in any way at all if you start venting your own frustration and add to the din – this would amount to a temper tantrum on your part as well. Take a deep breath; make a strong cup of coffee (this always helps, trust me!) and then sit down to set matters straight.
P.S. This post found its way here thanks to Sarah, who just got through a bout of bellowing over a new pink fairy gown she wanted me to buy for her to wear at her best friend’s birthday party next week. The request was politely (but firmly) put down and placated with some chocolate chip cookies (for the time being). Phew!